“Train your ears to listen well and do not listen to what does not raise you in righteousness.” Imam Ali (a.s)
Clay Jenson. The one who could have…
He could have loved her. He could have helped her. He could have saved her. But he never did. He was too afraid to help. Clay has a spotless reputation. Hannah is attracted to him because he really does seem as good as the things people say about him. He plays things safe and leads a drama free life, rarely taking risks. He prioritizes schoolwork over parties, and he does not get involved with girls with bad reputations – like Hannah Baker. Yet, because of her, he does. They went to school together, worked together, and spent time just hanging out together. And slowly but surely, they developed feelings for one another. He was the only one she could trust.
Clay was Hannah’s one. But he did not do enough to save her.
When we need help, whom do we turn to? We talk to our family, our friends, our teachers, and above all else, God (s.w.t). But what if the one that we turn to could not hear us? What if we were calling out for help and nobody was there to hear it?
Our “one” can be anyone that we depend on for advice. We cherish that person because they listen and care. However, many of us aren’t really listening. Research shows that we only listen with 25% efficiency. How can you possibly give a person sound advice when we don’t understand 75% of what they’re saying?
In Islam, our “one” is God. He is the best listener and the only One that can truly help us out of any difficulties we may be facing. One way He does this is by joining us with righteous friends, family, and spouses. They are there to listen, love, and bring us closer to God. Half our deen is completed when we get married, and a good marriage is founded on piety and communication. We have to listen to one another.
So I pose this question to you all.
What if we began trying harder to actually hear the people we care about?
One way or another, we are all someone else’s “one”, and simply paying attention to the signs of distress can save lives. Be the “one” they need.