Seeking to first understand, rather than to be understood means to listen to others and then voice your thoughts and opinions. As Muslims, a core value is honoring other people with an opportunity to express themselves and honoring ourselves by sharing an opportunity that we have had, which will help us all advance.
Treating one another with honor and respect comes from giving one another time and respect.
There is an equation based on three things
If you value someone, you will give them time and will make them a priority. If you value something you believe in it. Once you believe in something, then you become committed to that belief.
In order to achieve understanding there is a two-part formula to be successful in this principle. The first part is to seek to understand and the second is that you seek to be understood.